Sovereign Submission: Liberty through Devotion
Submission is not weakness. It is a sovereign choice, rooted in presence, power, and devotion.
Does this Sound like you?
You want to live a life of intimacy, connection, and purpose, but instead you find yourself:
Second-guessing your desire for submission, shaming yourself for wanting to give up control.
Performing, providing, and pretending to lead while secretly resenting the weight of it.
People-pleasing and approval-seeking in hopes someone will finally see you.
Stuck in loops of porn, doom-scrolling, or numbing habits that leave you empty.
Lost and lonely, punished by the voice in your head that says you’re “not man enough.”
The truth?
You’re not broken or alone. You’ve been trying to lead a life that was never yours to lead.
Imagine waking up six months from now and…
Feeling clarity and confidence in your choices.
Breaking free from numbing habits and building rituals that feed your energy.
Submitting to your woman with purpose-driven devotion.
Bringing presence and intimacy into every relationship you have.
Surrendering performative control and stepping fully into embodied service.
This isn’t fantasy. It’s the work of Sovereign Submission.
What makes this different
Most men’s coaching tells you to “Lead.”
I won’t.
I don’t help you dominate. I help you own your deepest desires to submit: cleanly, clearly, and powerfully.
Submission, when rooted in sovereignty, makes you trustworthy, grounded, and deeply attractive. This is not collapse or codependency. This is devotion with backbone.
Why am I focusing on Submissive Men?
I’m a submissive man. I have a mistress I deeply love and am devoted to and I have found a lot of joy and happiness in submitting to her and taking on a full time 24/7 dynamic of service to her.
It only took me 47 years to finally and fully acknowledge my deepest desires and act on them.
I know what it’s like to struggle with the desire for submission. For a long time I questioned whether my desire to submit was just another avenue for immature Nice Guy behaviors to come out or if it was an expression of healthy masculinity.
I’m a men’s coach who’s been engaged on the path of Men’s Work for a few years and while there’s a lot about the men’s movement I find to be affirming and support, there’s also a prevalent theme that men need to lead. I see it expressed by a number of men’s coaches and organizations in the men’s work space. What I don’t see expressed in the men’s movement is an acceptance or support of men who want to submit, instead of lead.
I don’t want to lead in my relationship. I don’t want to be in control. And I’m not the only man who feels this way, but when the prevalent message is that men must lead in relationship it creates an experience of exclusion.
Submission can be an expression of healthy masculinity, when it’s done right and in a way that allows the men to step into empowerment from under, with respect and trust for himself and from his dominant partner.
Vulnerability and Trust
Submission asks men to drop the armor. To trust another person with your body, your emotions, or your decisions requires radical vulnerability. This mirrors the deeper work men do when they stop hiding behind bravado or numbing habits and instead stand exposed, willing to be seen.
Power in Surrender
The paradox of submission is that by giving up control, you often discover a deeper power. Not the power of force or dominance, but the power of presence, service, and devotion. This is where surrender becomes a liberating act.
Presence and Submission
Presence is the heartbeat of submission. To truly submit, a man must remain deeply present: aware of his sensations, emotions, and boundaries in the moment. Without presence, submission can collapse into avoidance or disconnection. With presence, submission becomes a living meditation:
Embodied Listening – Feeling into the body’s cues instead of numbing out or checking out. Submission sharpens awareness of breath, muscle tension, and energetic shifts.
Trusting the Moment – Instead of rehearsing outcomes or controlling the flow, presence in submission is about meeting what arises in real time.
Responsibility in Surrender – Presence keeps submission from becoming abdication. You remain accountable to your “yes,” your limits, and your ongoing consent.
For men, this combination of presence and submission is revolutionary. It teaches that surrender isn’t escape, but instead is a form of mastery. By choosing to be fully present while giving up control, you deepen your integrity, expand your capacity to trust, and experience freedom beyond ego.
Submission as Spiritual Discipline
When practiced with presence, submission becomes more than a dynamic between partners. It becomes a spiritual discipline. It echoes meditation, prayer, and service: dropping the self’s need to control and opening to something larger. It’s a way of practicing humility without humiliation, devotion without loss of self, and freedom without detachment.
👉 In men’s work, submission and presence together forge a powerful path: surrendering control while staying grounded in awareness. This is how men discover the paradoxical truth that by yielding, they grow stronger.
Men. Can you relate to this? You want to live a life with rich, meaningful relationships, connection and intimacy, but you find yourself doing the following and never quite getting what you want:
Second-guessing your desire for submission and shaming yourself for wanting to give up control.
Putting pressure on yourself to perform, provide and take care of everyone else, while denying yourself your deepest needs and desires.
Paralyzed by fear and anxiety on the inside of having your desires discovered, while masking it all with a gritted smile and the mask of performative leadership.
Engaging in people pleasing and approval seeking to other people, in the hopes that they’ll approve and like you.
Lonely and lost, trying to lead yourself, even though you really don’t want to be in charge.
Punishing and shaming yourself for not being the man everyone expects you to be.
Endlessly arguing with the voice in your head about your decisions and choices.
Regretting past decisions, haunted by the cost to you and the people you love.
Anxiously running in circles, getting nowhere.
All of these patterns lead to feeling stuck: Mentally, emotionally and spiritually. And that stuckness impacts the quality of your life and relationships because you’re not honoring your deepest truths and desires.
it doesn’t have to be that way.
You deserve a life of connection, intimacy, and purpose, a life where you are embody your desires and submit from a place of conscious choice and embodied service.
But I’m not going to sugar coat it: It’s hard work. And it’s worth doing.
Creating your life, with decisive confidence, where you can act on your desires and be supported in your devotion takes time and effort and I’m right here with you all the way.
If any of this is landing with you, you’re not alone and you don’t have to stay stuck in conflict with yourself and your desires to submit and be of service to the feminine in your life.
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I’m Taylor Ellwood
I’ve been where you are. I lost everything in my life because I second-guessed myself and didn’t honor my deepest desires and truths. It cost me relationships, happiness and most of all my self-respect and trust. I felt lost, out of control and hit rock bottom.
When I picked myself back up from hitting rock bottom, I made a promise to myself that I would honor my deepest desires and truth and live my life with integrity. Along the way I finally accepted my desire to submit and committed myself to a 24/7 D/S dynamic which has brought me the greatest satisfaction and happiness in my life.
My mission is to help submissive men accept their desires while also showing them submission is an expression of healthy masculinity.